Archive for October, 2009

Conversation With My Toddler

Me to my toddler: “Can you please put the spoon away?”

My toddler to me: “I can’t. I hurt my back.”

I had to stifle a laugh.

My toddler to me: “Make me lunch, please.”

Me to my toddler: “I can’t. I hurt my feet.”

She looks at me and then at the spoon, she waits a few seconds, goes over, picks it up, puts it away, then smiles and asks for lunch again.

Too cute.

Judging People

Do you judge other people? Honestly now. I do and I’m ashamed of it. I try not to. I really do. But, sometimes, I just can’t help myself. I keep my thoughts pretty much to myself, sometimes I blog about them, sometimes I rant to my husband about them, but mainly I just shake my head and keep moving on.

I know that it’s up to God to judge each of us. I know we’re not supposed to judge each other. And I certainly have been proved wrong before. So, why do I keep doing it? Why does my brain automatically think “bad mother” when I see someone smoking in their car with kids on board? And is it such a bad thing? Isn’t that mother not thinking of her child as she puts both their lives at risk?

I had a conversation with a friend the other day. She is a much better person than I am… or at least I think she is from what she says. She talked about she doesn’t like to be judged, so she doesn’t judge other people. Her mentality was “if you don’t like me, fine”. And I like that about her. It doesn’t bother me if somebody non-essential to my everyday wellbeing doesn’t like me. I know I’m different and that’s okay. I don’t expect other people to be just like me and to think just like I do. Sure would be nice though ūüėÄ

I have been judged before and still am to this day. I was judged as a teenager when I wore all black, spiked my hair up, dyed it purple and had a bad attitude. I was judged when I looked like a teenager at 22 when I had my first baby. I was judged as a b*tch when I moved here and didn’t want to sit out in the street and drink. And I’m judged now for having 5 children and for my views on how to raise them. I can honestly say I’m okay with all that right now. Judge away if you must.

However, even though I’m okay with being judged, I am mad at myself for judging others. I will continue to try and change… but I don’t have much hope. People will still make me shake my head. And I’m sure, as always, I will blog about it.

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Schools & Money

I’m venting. I’m venting here because I don’t want to vent to my neighborhood and start something. So, here I go… We send our kids to school to learn. We entrust them to teachers. And we do pay. When we buy a home, we pay school taxes. In fact, I¬†pay up the nose in school taxes.

We pay for school supplies. I don’t mind paying it. Although, I would like to know who compiles this list – this list of supplies that our children need. I prepaid for my middle schoolers supplies this year and she didn’t use all of it. Not only was 1/4 of that box left over, but the teachers wanted other things! Specific color folders, binders, assignment books, and don’t forget to add in what the electives need – orchestra supplies, sewing supplies… UGH!

If that wasn’t enough, we are asked at the beginning of the school year for just about everything. School lunch money – not a big deal – I put so much in my children’s accounts so they can get lunch once a week. I think it’s neat how they have an online website where I can see what my girls are eating and how much money is left. I can deal with that one.

But, then there is PTO – this is something I wouldn’t join except that is the ONLY way to get a student directory. School spirit shirts. This isn’t something that is required, however most of the school has them and I don’t want my kids to feel left out every Friday when it’s spirit day. So, I buy the overpriced shirts.

Take a deep breath, that surely has to be it, right? Right? Noooooo. My 7th grader needs a gym uniform! Why is it that they can’t change into shorts and a t-shirt like we did in school? I need to spend $25 on a uniform? And NO, it can’t be the same one from last year!

School officially starts –¬†oh, did I not mention that this was all stuff that needed to be purchased BEFORE school even begins –¬†and YEARBOOK forms go out!!!!!!!! Yes, lets order a $40 yearbook in September! Don’t forget the extra money to have their name engraved!!!

My 7th grader decides to join cross country and all of a sudden I NEED to buy her a t-shirt and a jacket. Wonderful. Then this week, the elementary school wants money for Field Day shirts. Um… Field Day isn’t until SPRING!!!!!!!!!!

Don’t forget to buy from the Scholastic book paper! The schools need books, ya know. And picture day! Spend $50 on a picture package you can’t see before paying for it. We skipped that. We’ll do holiday pictures instead.

So, what set me off now? Why am I venting now? This music thing came up at school, the teachers are playing music in the classrooms and some of it’s not appropriate. The neighborhood is in an uproar. But, the people who are close to the teachers defend them by saying “Well, if you don’t like it, then you need to provide the money for the CDs we should be playing your children.” Um… what???????????????????????? (This topic is a whole other post)

I realize that teachers don’t make a lot of money. I realize that the schools don’t give them money to decorate or buy things for their classroom. But, I take a mean approach. If you don’t have the money to provide what your classroom needs, don’t be a teacher. I was in elementary education when I was in college. I knew what I was getting into. I knew I’d need my own money. And after completing 3 years, I decided that’s not what I wanted to do with my life. Maybe I’m a horrible person for saying that. I don’t think it should be MY responsibility to provide the teachers with extra stuff or CDs. I pay more than enough in taxes that the teachers should get some money to help them.

My 1st grader’s teacher is brand spanking new and her wish list was LONG. I actually don’t like any of my daughters being in a brand new room because they don’t get what the other kids get. The kids who have teachers who have been teachers more than a month actually have more toys, more supplies, on top of the experience the teacher has.

I wish I could homeschool. I wish I had the patience and the¬† knowledge to homeschool my girls. In fact, I came up with my own great plan ūüôā I think if you are going to homeschool your child, you shouldn’t have to pay school taxes. I could use the thousands of dollars I pay in taxes and all the money I’d save¬†not having to pay for PTO, t-shirts,¬†wish lists, etc. for the supplies needed to homeschool and have enough to hire a tutor for the things I can’t teach!

Yeah, yeah, yeah, I know I’m overprotective.

26 Weeks

The days seem to drag on and yet fly by. I often think about updating my blog and then I get sidetracked. I don’t have any real news to report. I saw my midwife last week for an appointment. She actually came to me! It was wonderful not having to drive anywhere, to wait in my own home, watch tv or be online while waiting. Not that I have to wait at her office either, but compared to waiting at the OB’s office, this is a dream.

My blood pressure was perfect for me, I gained 4 pounds since the last visit, no swelling. My belly finally measured accurately! I was 25 weeks and measured 25 weeks. The last visit had me a little scared because I was only measuring 15 week and I was 21 weeks. It reminded me of my pregnancy with NKJ. They had to induce me because she wasn’t growing anymore. My baby girl’s heart rate was good and she was moving all around. I see her again in 4 weeks and then the appointments will go to every 2 weeks! I can’t believe it’s already that time!

I will be having another ultrasound in a few weeks to check on my placenta. I sure hope it has moved up so it doesn’t cause any problems in delivery.

We did have some bad news on our insurance. It seems they were going to cover the midwife out of network, but our insurance switches January 1st! So, if the baby is born in December, that’ll be awesome money wise. If the baby isn’t born until January, we’ll be paying the whole thing.